If you’ve been thinking about growing your family, you’ve probably already felt the weight of assumptions– in the doctor’s office, in conversations, maybe even in your own head.
You shouldn’t have to explain or defend the way you want to become a parent. You shouldn’t feel "othered" for wanting something so human: a baby of your own. And you shouldn’t have to navigate cold clinical spaces that don’t recognize the fullness of who you are.
That’s why so many queer individuals and couples are choosing at-home insemination.
Why Choose Home Insemination?
At-home insemination offers something the medical system often can’t: intimacy, comfort, control, and respect. It meets you where you are–emotionally, financially, physically– and centers your choices.
It’s especially empowering for queer folks navigating a system not built with you in mind. Here's what makes it different:
Inclusivity
When you're inseminating at home, there's no need to worry about being misgendered, judged, or invalidated. It’s just you, your partner (if you have one), and your future.
No awkward conversations. No forms that don’t fit. No raised eyebrows or blank stares when you say “two moms” or “known donor” or “nonbinary parent.”
Comfort you can’t find in a clinic
Conception is intimate. It can be joyful, sacred, emotional, and incredibly vulnerable.
At home, you get to decide the setting, the vibe, the people in the room. You can light a candle, put on music, wear whatever makes you feel safe. It’s your moment. And that matters.
Affordability that actually makes trying possible
IVF and IUI are out of reach for so many, often costing tens of thousands of dollars per round. And queer people are statistically less likely to be covered by insurance for fertility care.
That’s what makes self-insemination so powerful: it’s effective, accessible, and costs a fraction of the price. The PherDal kit, for example, is just $200 and includes everything you need to try for three fertile days in one cycle.
Surrogacy & donor eggs
If your journey includes donor eggs or a gestational carrier, parts of the process must go through a fertility clinic, and at home insemination isn’t an option. That’s because the embryo must be formed in the lab so IVF is required. But with traditional surrogacy (where the surrogate’s own egg is used), insemination can sometimes happen at home, if that feels right for everyone involved.
Make sure you also have signed legal contracts for all donors and parents involved in your fertility journey.
Your emotional well-being matters too
This isn’t just a physical journey– it’s deeply emotional. Give yourself room to feel everything–the excitement, the fear, the grief, the joy. You’re allowed to want this deeply. And you’re allowed to need support along the way.
How It Works (and What to Know)
Here’s what self-insemination actually looks like:
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Secure a sperm sample — from a known donor or a certified sperm bank.
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Thaw (if frozen) or collect (if fresh) the sample following safety guidelines.
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Use a sterile, needleless syringe to deposit the sample inside the vagina during ovulation.
It sounds simple, and it can be! But like any path to parenthood, there are a few important things to consider:
Sperm source & legal protection
If you’re using sperm from a friend, it’s essential to create a legal donor agreement with a reproductive lawyer. It protects everyone involved and gives you peace of mind. If you’re using a sperm bank, follow their instructions for thawing and usage carefully.
Ovulation tracking is everything
Timing is key. You’ll want to track your (or your partner or your traditional surrogate’s) cycle to pinpoint the fertile window. This is the best time to inseminate– usually a 2–3 day window around ovulation.
Get a FREE ovulation tracking journal.
Sterility Isn’t Optional — It’s Essential
One final, crucial note: when choosing an insemination kit, sterility matters.
We’ll say it louder for the ones in the back– STERILITY MATTERS!
Contaminated tools (which many cheap kits don’t safeguard against) can introduce bacteria and reduce your chances of conceiving. Worse, they can cause infections that hurt your reproductive health.
The PherDal ICI Kit is the only FDA-cleared, 100% sterile kit on the market. Every component, from syringe to collection cup, is individually wrapped and lab-grade clean. That’s not a bonus. That’s a baseline.
Your body deserves that level of care.
You Belong Here. Your Family Belongs Here.
No matter how your family is made–two moms, two dads, one parent, chosen family–we believe in you. In your future. In your right to create life on your terms.
With PherDal, you’re not just buying a kit. You’re joining a community that sees you, celebrates you, and stands beside you.
And we’d be honored to be part of your story.
PherDal is here for every hopeful heart. For every queer parent-to-be. For every brave next step.
Let’s make a baby, your way.
